Sometime last week, someone messaged me through my facebook page, asking a question very dear to his heart. He said:

“Please, how can a man see a loving and caring babe(wife material)?”

Would you love to see my response? If yes, proceed!

You’ve asked how a man can find a loving and caring woman. This is my simple view: For you to find a loving and caring woman (wife material, in your words), you need to be loving and caring (husband material) as well. You see, there is also something called law of attraction – you get what you focus on.

But beyond that, if you believe in God just as I do, you will lean on him to guide you through the process – so that you won’t end up carrying a pretender (another man’s bone).

However, even in this. You will need to possess what you seek because God Almighty will not give a loving and caring woman to someone who doesn’t know her worth. Finally, just as emotions develop, you many not get what you describe as loving and caring right away from the beginning of a relationship.

And if you are not careful, you may end up jumping from a relationship to another. But if you take the very first steps of going for someone you admire, love and want to be with, you can make a loving and caring woman out of her.


  • Going for your dreams and becoming a better person
  • Showing care about what she loves
  • Making her realize what you cherish in general
  • Using her love language to reach her always and make her feel appreciated among many others.

I hope this helps you, and I pray that you find wisdom to approach it.


Rebecca Maulome Padonu is an enthusiastic writer with a soft spot for factions. A RubyWrites 2016 finalist. She has completed several freelance writing projects, including BBC Media Action’s Drama series, Story Story (series 32 & 33).

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