Have you looked around in recent time? If you peep into TLs, or look through statuses and stories of certain people, you’ll find some familiar phrases such as:
“I’ve been stabbed in the back by those I needed most”
“ah! It is easy to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend…”
“it takes years to build up trust and only seconds to destroy it”
“It’s funny how sometimes the people you take the bullets for are the ones behind the trigger”
“We’re not friends, we’re not enemies, we’re just strangers with some memories”
“it is better to have an enemy who honestly says they hate you, than to have a friend who is putting you down secretly”
Some will even go to the extent of saying there is no such concept as best friend because, you’ll get betrayed at the long run. Although I know sometimes people put up certain quotes because they feel it addresses a truth and not necessarily because they are going through it.
But quite a number of times even when people deny it, you will realize that more people write on their status about their current situation than not. Anyways, that’s a story for another day.
So, after a live video session with Oluwabukunmi Olusina on Instagram, I got inspired to put up this post based on my interpretation. This post is designed around the kind of people we all have in our lives. We cannot not communicate because we are created to be social beings.
We have colleagues at work, members at church, neighbours at home, course-mates at school and so on. All these people form friends (intimate or casual) or acquaintances depending on how you label them. But above all, there are different types of people in our lives and we need to identify them for our own safety.
Are you ready? Come with me…
Categories of People in Your Life
People who love you and have something to offer – AA
I call this set of people the AA because they seem positive both ways. These are people who will always encourage you to keep moving in the face of an adversary. In fact, these ones will go extra miles of performing tasks that will ease your journey. Although, they mostly come as family members, but just look around you, there are friends who stick closer than brothers.
People who love you but have nothing to offer – AS
These ones appreciate your personality but will not necessarily perform physical or intellectual task to ease your journey through life. They however have a positive energy which doesn’t kill if kept close. You never can tell, “omo buruku na l’ojo tie” (even a terrible person has good days). They can get resourceful at the long run. These set of people too can serve as source of encouragement.
People who don’t love you but have something to offer – AS
These are colleagues at work or members of your team on a task. They do not necessarily hate you as a person, but they are not attracted to you either. These ones have a lot to help you achieve. So, you’ve got to learn as much as you can even though you’re aware that you re not their favourite.
People who don’t love you and have nothing to offer – SS
These ones are double negatives. They do not care about you as much and there is nothing you will gain from them. They will rather sap you dry of the few inside of you. They are generally envious of you and will intentionally hang around to see what will become of you. They are responsible for spreading terrible rumours about you and readily discourage others from helping you out. They are full of bad energy even though they identify as your friend. You don’t need them.
After going through the four categories of people in your life, I hope you can identify them, because by their fruits, we shall know them. You don’t need bad energy in your life at all. Get that! Save yourself the stress of having to write about them on your TL and status.
Also, remember that you are an average of those you spend your time with. Be wise! Do the needful. Don’t dwell on sentiments, cut off unnecessary friendships and move on.